Saturday, February 8, 2014

पुरुषों को भी होती है चाहत

ईश्वरीय अनुकम्पा से 'प्रेम' मेरे लिए कभी संघर्ष का विषय नहीं रहा.किशोरावस्था से प्रेम की जिस परिभाषा को मन ने गढ़ना शुरू किया व्यस्क होने पर वही दामन में उपहार बन समा गया.स्त्री पुरुष के बीच प्रेम की इस विषय-वस्तु को मैंने कांच और पत्थर के रिश्ते सा नहीं बल्कि नीर-क्षीर मिश्रण सा महसूस किया है जहां दो पृथक वज़ूद मिलकर एकसार हो जाते हैं.मैंने स्त्री को अगर पुरुष की बराबरी की चाहत में छटपटाते देखा तो पुरुषों में भी स्त्रियों के मानक महानताओं की ऊंचाई पाने की चाहत देखी.इसलिए मेरे लिए प्रेम ज़िंदगी के गणित के योगात्मक पहलू (१+१=२) की बजाय गुणात्मक (१*१=१ ) पहलू है जहां एक एक मिलकर दो नहीं बल्कि एक और एक गुणात्मक रूप से  एक हो जाते हैं ..एक शरीर..एक धड़कन...सुख-दुःख सब साझा होकर एक ....बस यही प्रेम की स्पष्ट...साफ़ और सरल परिभाषा है.क्योंकि........
ज़िंदगी.....सिर्फ...
एक ही छत के नीचे रहने का नाम नहीं
बात-बात पर एहसान जताने का काम नहीं
हल्की दरारों को खाई बनाने का पथ नहीं
सांसें गिन-गिन कर बढता खींचता रथ नहीं
शाम होते ही लौट आते हैं पंछी भी नीड़ को
रहने खाने का इंतज़ाम करना आता कीट को
पर.......
मनुष्य ज़िंदगी रहने-खाने के अतिरिक्त भी कुछ है
एक छत के नीचे रहते हुए
करने होते हैं साझा ....
कुछ मूक संवाद....कुछ अनदिखे कष्ट
समझनी होती है....
हंसते होठों की पीड़ा...रोती आँखों की क्रीड़ा
थामने होते हैं हाथ....
जो घंटों बेलती हैं रोटियां....वर्षों कमाती हैं रोटियां
मिलाने होते हैं कदम.....
भूत,वर्त्तमान,भविष्य के....चलती-थमती रहस्य के
देने होते हैं हक़.....
बात अपनी समझाने के...मान -इज्जत पाने के
सुनने होते हैं पल....जो निकले ....
विकलते मन के आर-पार....पोरों से बहते सस्त्र धार
क्या कभी साझा किया विश्रांत क्षणों को ??????
कभी साहस कर तोड़ा एक-दूजे के मौन को ????
स्त्री ने पुरुष से...पुरुष ने स्त्री से ....पूछा कब ????
बिन बात के भी क्यों....होठं फड़कते हैं तेरे
बिन मेघ के ही क्यों....नयन बरसते हैं तेरे
मार हर मौसम की कैसे....शरीर सहते हैं तेरे
बिन हथेली स्पर्श से क्यों ...दृग बर्फ पिघलते हैं तेरे
जज़बात किस भय से यों ...मूक रहते हैं तेरे
क्या कभी झाँक कोशिश की देखने की ?????
अंतस का वह गहन कूप...परिणति थे जो अंसुअन के
समस्त छुपी वेदनाओं के...पिघलते लावा दहक तपन के
ये कैसी पहचान कि....
पंख टूट जाएं तो ...उड़ान का एहसास हो
पर्ण बिखर जाएं तो...दरख्त का आभास हो
नींद आँखों को छोड़े.. तो स्वप्न का वास हो
संयोग में ही मानो..पतझड़ का मधुमास हो
सर्द कब्रों को बस गर्म अश्कों ही का आस हो
एक छत के नीचे रहने वाले.....
दो विपरीत ध्रुव नहीं.....दो विपरीत कूल नहीं
पूरक होते एक-दूजे के
ख़ास होता अर्थ नन्हे वज़ूद का
सच है कि स्त्री............
कृतज्ञ समर्पित हो जाती है
वात्सल्य प्यार स्नेह लुटाती है
कोख,तन मन मस्तिष्क के....समस्त बोझ उठाती है
त्याग स्वहिस्से का अधिकार...महानता का तमगा पाती है
रीति रस्म रिवाज़ों के ...भावना सूत्र से बंध जाती है
आँचल के अमृत घट से...राखी के रेशम सूत्र से
चुटकी भर रक्तिम सिन्दूर से..मान की स्नेह जंजीर से
पर सदियों से बराबरी की आकांक्षा में ....स्त्री...
अक्सर यह समझ नहीं पाती कि....
पुरुषों को भी होती है चाहतस्त्री सी ऊंचाइयां छूने की.
-yamuna

Better to be value than to teach & preach value

Mother was busy to give a special look to the room..she shifted T.V.from sitting room to that particular room...placed a small tripod beside the bed to keep medicines on that...soft cushions on sofas.....soft comfortable mattressess on the bed covered with light sky blue coloured & floral printed bedsheet ...
Seeing the whole preparation 14yrs daughter curiously asked,"Maa,what are these preparation for?" mother smiled & said,"Your grandmother is coming to stay with us...your papa loves his mother very much & I love your papa very much...the preparation is all about that."
With shining eyes the daughter responded happily,"Oh! so sweet of you ma, I too will do the same preparation when you & papa will come to  my job station...."
Mother embraced her daughter ....she thought "ITS BETTER TO BE VALUE THAN TO TEACH VALUE."

' Kohinoor ' (Times Ascent); I treasure

I would like to begin  my blog with Sandeep Aurora 's line collected by me from his article 'Boredom Dead' published on Dec 18,2013 in Times Ascent

"Use technology to make your boredom fruitful"
Its my pleasure to get an opportunity to allow my collection (kohinoor) from  Times Ascent to  radiate .which I used to  treasure every Wednesday.Three yrs back I left my job due to transferable nature of my life partner's job .To me  'Times Ascent' has never ever been a source of searching for a job....but it has been proved  as a good source of sweet water lake to quench my thirst for learning.I treasure all the nice articles especially from 'Voice of HR' as the section  gives me the way to enter my life partener's job to understand him better his comforts...his stress ,articles from Talent Diaries I collect due to being  passionate  about  writing .
I would like to show the shining rays of this kohinoor.....here are some glimpses of my collection....

Articles by Viren Naidu

1)As my daughter is the most precious gem in our life i liked the article ' Mum's The World 'published on May 5,2010 as those days I was working lady so it had become an eyecatching headline "many working mothers feel that by working they are taking some thing valuable away from their children:time"...& the unique ways to address this dilemma showed  me some beautiful ways...to cope with my passion ,upbringing my only lovely daughter ...as well as with  teaching job.

2)Feb8,2012 questions during a job interview (No Straight Question)modern day interview ques are insightful well researched & slightly twisted .The example by  the ques 'if your work life were to featured in the news what would the headline say & why?was really interesting I conveyed it  to my husband .I like to do this as his busy schedule seldom allows him to go through the articles.(its also true that  i do believe ....."if one has interest ;time never becomes  an issue.....if you love & like to do the thing you always have time for it.")
3)oct,10,2012 'Bossophobia '
Are all bosses by definition dictators?if not,then why fear them"
4)March 7,2012 Advantage Women Inc
How even today women's achievements continue to be defined by gender.further these gender association get highlighted every year on the 8th of march that women's day section I like the most.

HR Voice

This corner of Times Ascent attracts me due to my  love for  life partner as I wish him to flourish in his very job of HR.

1)Self Empowerment v/s Self Branding by Mukund M Patil well illustrated with the example of Eklavya & Sachin Tendulkar
2)The Story Of My Mentor by Snehil Sarkar most likeable line"the last yet most valuable lesson people are your biggest asset."

Talent Diaries ........its my favourite corner

1)June 19,2013 'The Art Of Asking (Marshal Goldsmith)
Peter Drucker once said,"The leader of the past knew how to tell,the leader of the future will know how to ask."
the ques "Have you ever asked your wife how you can become a better husband." is quite relevant to the article.
2)Nov 6,2013 HR  ,Slow And Steady (Ninad Karpe)
in the article two points are appreciable
a) Its a social social world
b) Knowledge is free
3)Dec18,2013 'Boredom Dead' (Sandeep Aurora)  liked the line "use technology to make your boredom fruitful inspired me."
4) Will an HR  manager ever get the coveted CEO 's
answer by T V Rao widely regarded as 'THE FATHER OF INDIAN HRD'  is quite readable article.

now,some other collected gems.....

in the list first I would like to mention two very nice articles by Lynn Lobo
Oct 26,2012 'Are you a monogamous worker '?
'Superstitious Traps ' I agree with Sudhanshu Pandit director HR Symantee India "Your employees cultural and personal ideas are their own;as long as they do not cause inconvenience or discomfort to others or affect performance."
1)12 June 2013 "when women take career breaks employer should continue to engage with them (Kalpana Marparia)
2)March 27,2013 'Leadership It Takes Two To Tango' (Priya C Nair)
India Inc  -Shared Leadership
"The organization must have a high spirited workforce employee friendly HR policies and a strong and passionate leader who could actually work with the employees and management...."
3)May 16,2012 from 'Disengagement To Departure (Sheetal Srivastava)
eye catching line "It is said that people don't leave companies they leave bossess.
4)19 June 2013' Induction With A Difference'
new techniques cited by (palak bhatia) quizzes,two min chat,musical prog.etc
5)Peak Hour Idea Traffic (Dr David Rock)
Why working professionals should not live in the false belief that decisions can be made all day long.
6)Are you an organization that nobody wants to leave.(Rustam Lawyer)
strategies for retaining & nurturing an efficient work force .
I read the article for my life partner.
7)11Sept,2013 CSR-The Next Level (Susir Kumar)
CSR -create shared value drive business growth & aid is employee align .As my home town is Jamshedpur(TISCO steel city with Value Stronger Than Steel)& my husband works with ACC- we can say Value Higher Than Skyscraper (Cementing Relationship.....Sada Atoot Raho))...so having the Combo of two value based working culture  ....sometimes I try to understand  the CSR  of both TISCO  as well as ACC  thus ...the article gave me insight to  this way .
8)11th Sep,2013 a culture of success (Govind Krishna) critical role of HR  in creating an organizational culture...HR  plays a significant role in preventing the clash of culture.
9)'Talent  Issues ? Look within' by Manis Sinha.
"Build your own talent before you set out to buy someone."
10)Sep 4,2013 criticism that doesn't hurt by yasmin taj tells about constructive criticism extremely beneficial in this very sensitive work force of gen y.
11)28 Aug,2013 'the breakdown of hierarchies' by Ritu Mehrotra allows to play a rational role without being influenced by hierarchy.
12)'Do You Have A Hobby' by Unnati
Hobbies can help one unwind and distress in a big way.
13)April 18,2012 'Workaholism ,An Acceptable Trait ?(Arshie Chevalwala)
A thought ful line from the article..."There is a thin line between passion for your work and an unhealthy commitment to it."
14)'Are Appraisal Really A Nuisance ?'(Palak Bhatia)
15)Oct 16, 2013 'Is The Boss Always Right ? (Sunil Nayak)
some recent articles which i really liked ....are.....
1) From Mediocre To Excellent by Lalit Jain
2)A Zero-Tolerance Policy by Ankita Shreeram
3)Voice Of HR 29th january liked the winner vikas gera's view.(5 points)
4)Has HR Branded Itself? by S Mukherjee,

5)Manage,Monitor,Assess by Jarpreet Sethi
6)Virtual Team Spirit by Palak Bhatia

the best one i've collected is 'Once Upon A Time.....by
Ankita Shreeram
as i love  teaching job & story telling makes the job vital...i like this article very much.


At last but not least ...I am really thankful to Times Ascent for  all the collected gems .....I would like to be enriched all time (past,present,future)with more precious gems of times ascent for lifelong.........
With regards
yamuna pathak .